"He is gone but not forgotten. I am my son's voice."
Declares mother of 12 year old Michael Wiltsie in reaction to Marion Grand Jury's decision
not to indict Eckerd Youth Alternatives counselor in the restraint-related death of her son
Commentary by Barbe Stamps
According to a report published in the St. Petersburg Times on February 24, 2000, Michael Wiltsie was just 5 years old when his mother, Linda Ibarra, first tried to get her son help because of aggressive behavior.
After taking the boy to a mental health facility in March 1995 due to his aggressive behavior and suicide ideations, Michael was diagnosed with attention deficit hyperactivity and opposition defiance disorder and placed on medication to control his mental health difficulties.
But at age 9, Michael got arrested for burglary and was given another mental examination that recommended immediate placement in a residential treatment facility to protect Michael and the community. A second examination at the same time recommended drug therapy, behavior modification and possibly residental treatment.
Instead, Michael was put on probation and was arrested several more times for charges that included battery, burglary, trespassing and resisting a police officer. In November 1999, a mental exam recommended once again that the young boy be given residential mental health care and treatment.
However, the State of Florida Department of Juvenile Justice recommended Wiltsie be placed in a "low risk residential treatment program". When the juvenile court ordered a medium risk alternative, Michael was sent to a wilderness camp for troubled boys called Camp E-Kel-Etu located in Ocala National Forest near Silver Springs.
A fateful decision that would ultimately cost Michael his life on February 5, 2000 and raise disturbing questions about who or what let "Mikey" down. The juvenile justice system which existed for his benefit but failed to protect him; the many doctors he had seen over the past 7 years or the camp counselor that restrained him.
In an "unusually quick" action, the Marion Grand Jury released a 4 page report on February 23, 2000 concluding that Joseph C. Cooley, 27, properly followed the restraint procedures he had been taught when he pinned the "combative" boy to the ground on February 4, 2000 and that the state is to blame for failing to provide proper mental health treatment for the troubled youth.
However, the grand jury determined that at nearly 300 pounds, the counselor's weight used during the restraint in contrast to Michael's weight of about 65 pounds, led to the young boy's death of "compressional asphyxiation".
In a statment to investigators on the day of the incident, Cooley claimed that he hadn't put any weight on Wiltsie and that he didn't believe the boy was having trouble breathing because he had a history of "bluffing". However, the grand jury report stated that when Michael became still after being restained by Cooley who had pinned his entire body to the floor, Cooley accused him of playing possum and continued the retraint for a short time before getting up.
After Michael still wasn't moving, Cooley reportedly saw that he wasn't breathing and began CPR while counselors called 911 and a nurse administered 2 shots of epinephrine to try to restart his heart.
Pronounced dead the following day at Shands at University of Florida in Gainseville, the grand jury agreed that "had Michael been placed in what we considered the obviously needed program earlier in his involvement with the juvenile justice system, he would not have been in Eckerd E-Kel-Etu camp"
A camp that according to the grand jury report, had required Wiltsie to discontinue taking Ritalin because of their policy of not accepting children on medication. In fact, some officials of the camp had initially objected to having Wiltsie in the program, apparently because of the boy's mental health needs.
Finding that under the circumstances Cooley "had followed the procedure which he and other counselors had used for many years and that no one who witnessed the restraint saw it as more forceful or long in length than other restraints", the grand jury could not say that the counselor acted with utter disregard for Michael's safety, as required in order to constitute manslaughter.
But that's not how Michael's grandmother sees it.
"He wouldn't have died if he (Cooley) hadn't crushed him to death," said Jacki Miller in a telephone interview with the St. Petersburg Times. "What is wrong with our judicial system these days? All the evidence, it was there that this guy did this. It's not fair. A little 12-year-old boy died from something that wasn't his fault."
Linda Ibarra who reportedly broke down after hearing the grand jury's decision, said that their report provided her with new details about the chain of events leading to her son's death.
"I didn't know he (Cooley) straddled him like a horse. If I as a mother did what this man did, I'd be in jail, wouldn't I? My Mikey weighed 65 pounds."
For Eckherd officials relieved that their counselor was not charged, President and CEO of Eckerd Youth Alternatives Karen V. Waddell issued a statement that declared "our whole organization remains in shock over the loss of Michael Wiltsie and we are in the process of grieving and healing".
Upon the recommendation of the grand jury that their organization consider "the size of the child be emphasized in determining how to restrain the child and that alternative restraint methods be taught," Eckherd officials said they are reviewing restraint procedures to see whether they should be changed.
Meanwhile, in a report published in the St. Petersburg Times on February 29, 2000, Michael's relatives said they have hired prominent Miami lawyer Ellis Rubin to represent them.
Rubin who held a news conference in front of the Marion Court House on February 28 said he hoped a special prosecutor would "come down to Ocala and give us justice".
Sitting nearby, Michael's sobbing relatives listened as Rubin further stated that Michael's death "is an injustice, an injustice that can not go on."
Calling for Governor Jeb Bush to appoint a special prosecutor who could resubmit the case to a grand jury or directly file criminal charges such as manslaughter, Rubin and the Wiltsies can only wait to see if justice will be served to satisfy Rubin's assertion that Michael "didn't have to die on that day".
Clearly, there is something terribly wrong with this picture. The picture of a heartbroken mother remembering one of the last conversations she had with her little boy. When he called from Camp E-Kel-Etu and told her that he had recently been restrained by a counselor.
"Momma, I was so scared. I'm never getting in trouble again, Momma," he said.
Sadly, Michael doesn't have to be scared anymore about getting in trouble.
As for the fate of Joseph Cooley, the Florida Department of Juvenile Justice and the doctors, only time will tell if the scales of justice will tip in favor of "affirming and protecting the rights of children" instead of holding a defenseless boy accountable for his own tragic death.
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Michael Spencer Wiltsie
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Photo of Linda Ibarra (Mother of Michael Wiltsie) at her son's gravesite in 2003
December 1, 2005
BY MILLARD K. IVES
THE STAR-BANNER
OCALA -
An Ocala woman, whose 12-year-old son died in 2000 after being restrained by a youth camp counselor, was found dead along with her 7-year-old son late Tuesday, in what Marion County Sheriff's investigators are investigating as
a murder-suicide.
Linda Ibarra, 36, was found by her 16-year-old son in the garage at 1533 N.W. 42nd Place, lying outside the driver's side door of a black Ford Explorer. Lorenzo Ibarra was found dead in the passenger seat.
Lorenzo was a first-grader at Evergreen Elementary School.
Capt. Dennis Strow, spokesman for the Marion County Sheriff's Office, said authorities are treating the case as a homicide investigation but an autopsy and further investigation still needs to be conducted.
He said the vehicle was not running when it was discovered. The garage door was closed and the ignition was on, and witnesses told investigators that the mother had mentioned taking her life before they were found after 11 p.m. Tuesday.
An assistant medical examiner found no signs of trauma on the two bodies.
"All signs point to carbon-monoxide poisoning and murder-suicide," Strow said.
Ibarra's son, Michael Wiltsie, died on Feb. 5, 2000, after being restrained by a counselor at Camp E-Kel-Etu, a wilderness camp for troubled youth. Neighbors said she still seemed to be grieving.
Next-door neighbor Jesse Heckman said Ibarra often talked about how the ghost of her son still helped her around the house.
"It seems she had never gotten over him," Heckman said.
On top of the roof, right above the garage, was the name "Mikey," written in Christmas lights. Maj. Chris Blair said the mother's teenage son, Brian Wiltsie, lives with friends and came home Tuesday night after trying several times to reach his mother by phone.
He found the bodies in the garage and called the Sheriff's Office.
Investigators arrived at the brown and tan colored wooden home about 11:35 p.m. and sifted through the scene well into the morning, looking for evidence as a kitten played in the garage. Brian Wiltsie, dressed in a white knit Timberland cap, stood by with friends.
Evergreen Elementary's principal personally informed staff members of Lorenzo's death and grief counselors were available for students there Wednesday and today, said Kevin Christian, a Marion County School District spokesman. Brian Wiltsie does not attend public school in Marion County.
Christian said the elementary school plans to put up some kind of tribute to Lorenzo on the school's marquee.
"He seemed like a good kid," said Heckman, who added his child sometimes played with Lorenzo.
Some neighbors gathered near the home Tuesday about 7 a.m. after waking up to the news of the death. Theresa Shannon and Nancy Parris, who live several yards from the home, kissed each other on the cheek as they met to comfort each other.
They said they knew little of the woman, but Parris added, "She was a lovely lady."
Law enforcement gave the kitten to Shannon to keep.
Parris said the Explorer was always parked in the driveway and she thought it was strange that she hadn't seen it in a couple of days.
"I hope and pray that Linda's death wakes people up to the reality of the need
for effective mental health services in your community."
OTHER VOICES
Mother's death opens door to explore deeper issues
KARYL CHASTAIN BEAL
Special to the Star-Banner
I read the Star-Banner article about Linda Ibarra, who recently took her own life and the life of her small son. Linda was my friend, and I appreciate that after such a tragedy, people want to understand. However, your report did not promote understanding. It simply added to the gossip mill.
The suggestion Linda killed herself because she was not "over" her son's death is absurd. Of course she wasn't "over" Mikey's death. No mother ever gets "over" the death of her child! But most of us keep on living.
The suggestion Linda killed herself because of marriage problems is absurd. Millions of people have marriage problems every day and don't kill themselves.
The hearsay comments about Linda's dreams of Mikey and her Christmas decoration displaying Mikey's name in lights may result in uninformed speculation about her mental state. But so what? Many bereaved parents dream of their children; many bereaved parents do something special to honor their children's memory during the holidays.
And they don't kill themselves.
If understanding suicide were this simple, Florida would not have more than 2,500 reported suicides every single year.
Suicide is complex. Severe depression is one factor. But the interaction of other factors, including personal, social, situational and psychological also influence the person's mind.
Rather than publishing neighborhood chitchat, what about publishing articles that would help prevent other such tragedies?
You could have published the signs that indicate a person is suicidal.
You could have published information about suicide in Florida, to help your readers understand that suicidal talk needs to be addressed, not ignored, and that professional help should be sought immediately if anyone indicates they are even thinking about suicide.
You could have published a list of the places people in your county can go to for help if they are struggling to survive, and the phone numbers to call for support and counseling.
Wouldn't that have been a way to pull something positive out of Linda's suicide?
I knew Linda for almost six years, as I run the Grieving Parents support group Linda was involved with. She's visited my home several times and we attended a conference in Atlanta a few years back for bereaved parents. I'm also the mother of a teenage daughter who died by suicide.
I hope and pray that Linda's death wakes people up to the reality of the need for effective mental health services in your community. Dodging it, or assigning blame where it does not fit, will not fix the situation.